So I"ll post it here - easier then some of the yahoo groups -but I guess that's why I tend to not read them as much. I know a lot of people are reading this blog - and that's really cool - thanks. But I just saw an email chain how all these people are no longer adopting from ET due to ethical reasons. And that's fine - but I feel like if we don't switch we're being judged as "bad" - well I don't care. God brought my heart here - and I just am not ready to change. I honestly believe that the ET and US governments are doing all they can to do things ethically. Yes - we will always have bad seeds out there with adoptions all over - heck even in the US>
Just read some news stories - here in Michigan a local mom killed her self - but with the intent of taking all 4of her adopted kids with her this weekend. Drugging them up and trying to put them all in a van, running in a closed garage - she died of carbon monoxide poisoning - God bless the kids survived. And that father in FL that murdered his adopted daughter and tried to kill her twin brother. Seriously - our system is not so ethical - its messed up in different ways - all in the words of "keeping families together" - or not really looking at it. but I know the people in the systems are trying - the are short handed and funding is low.
So please - follow your hearts everyone - you can adopt domestically or from any country internationally - its up to you and your family - but there are issues everywhere. But honestly the kids are innocent bystanders - they are the ones that no matter what should have a loving home and family to take care of them. No matter where they are at. So to my friends adopting domestically - that's awesome - keep pressing forward and the same for all of us looking at ET or any other country - its what is best for us.
Now if only I felt strong enough to publish this in the yahoo groups - but I"m not. But maybe just one will see this blog out there. So everyone can follow their hearts - we are sure doing that.
Gail
7 comments:
Hi,
My name is Sarah and I am also waiting for a child through AAI. Recently I have been so disturbed by the negativity on the blogs, that yesterday I took myself off of all the blogs except for AAI. God Bless you on your journey, as I understand that we are all called to Ethiopia for our own reasons, and it is no one else's place to tell us how to build our families.
Sarah
Stay strong. This is a long and frustrating process, but there is always a reason for what you feel in your heart. As you know, we felt pulled to Ghana, but it had nothing to do with ET. I really hope everything starts to pick up over there and that your wait isn't too long!
Hello Gail,
We are hoping to start our third IN adoption in the next couple of monthes. With our last two adoptions the countries yahoo groups provided us with so much support and knowledge (travel,country, misc) that as soon as we decided on ET I joined the groups excited to learn all I could. I was HORRIFIED with the negativity. I have not experienced anything like it in any other group. I even started to look at other countries thinking I must be a bad person to even consider ET. But God has led our hearts to ET for a reason. I'm going to follow where he points us. Keep the faith and try not to let the words get to you. Thanks for your post!!! Very well said!!
Stacey
All - thank you for the wonderful posts and words of encouragement. I know God led us here and I am not ready to leave this path just yet. Its amazing - but ET is where my heart is at the moment.
AS I read from the Robert's blog - "its a god thing" - I love that.
anyhow - we are all on a journey - and I"ll have to start ignoring those negative emails or posts - I just can't believe it - but it makes me feel stronger.
Gail
Gail,
We are also in the process of adopting from Ethiopia with AAI. I too have removed myself from the big yahoo group, it is so negative and I get upset almost everytime I read it. Just stick with AAI's group and get the facts and support:) It's your families and God's journey:)
Blessings~
Sue
We went through the same thing with Guatemala. Our adoption took place during the very intense time right before the shut down so there was A LOT of media attention on these things (so even people outside the world of adoption were expressing concern because of what they were seeing on the news). Every case had its own individual factors and we all have to be comfortable. I was 100% comfortable with our situation. I don't know if others could have been so lucky but we did the right thing. As long as you are mindful and "present" you can take action to make sure your own adoption is ethical. And you certainly do not owe an explanation to ANYONE.
Sue and Rachel - thank you! I agree - when I make the time this weekend- deleting off the big groups. Sue - feel free to email me - gmbackus@hotmail.com
anyhow - Rachel - you are so right. I agree - I feel the country may be slowing down - but for the right reasons to investigate the kids and to ensure their adoptions are fair and valid. I respect that totally and want to know our child is 100% ours and ready.
Just glad to know more are out there. and glad to start meeting more AAI people.
Gail
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