Weekly Baby update

Well I'm not sure if people are still tuning into this website or not - but just incase we said we'd keep it going. Craig and I had our appointment this morning and it looks like Baby B is still going strong. The doctor still thinks its bigger than the ultrasound calculated (yes - nothing is very accurate until the little one is physically put on a scale). Technically it would be about 6.5 pounds this week - he thinks its a lot bigger. The doctor hasn't said anything about inducing at this time - but Craig and I just don't think its good right now. Know a few people that induced only because they thought the baby was big - and it wasn't. We'd rather it have more developement time anad us more time to get ready! We stil have LOTS to get done at the house - good thing for the holiday weekend.

The heart beat was also very strong. And I'm still only dilated to 1 cm! So yes - anyone placing bets last week - we did not have the baby yet! I think the doctor was surprised as well today. He didn't say how far effaced yet - but he could feel the head. He told us the baby is in the right position and low - sitting on my bladder. In the last day or two its been difficult to walk - making me belive the baby did drop down - even though you can't tell by the belly! The doctor agreed.

His only concern today was me - my blood pressuer was up compared to where it has been for many weeks. Its not drastically high - just higher than normal. so he had me give them some blood to test for Toxemia - I should have some results back by the end of today. he said its nothing to worry about - because right now I've been good up to this point. My guess is I'd be put on some medicine and maybe rest for a few weeks. Which would be alright - boring and alone with my own thoughts - so that may not be too good. Lucky I'll just have to ask my friends to come keep me company if that is the case. But honestly - seeing how things have turned out so good with this pregnancy - I really think I'm fine.

so keep your fingers crossed we have a few more weeks - I did make it to my 1 year anniversary here at work - oficially its today! So now that means I am 100% available for the FMLA laws (pending work being shut down) and can get the full package when the doors do shut in the future here! Its not much - but its double what I would have gotten if they decided to lay me off yesterday!

Next appointment is thursday July 8th! Will keep you updated then - unless something else happens in the mean time.

Britt page

FYI Britt's -
The email to invite us all must not have gone out yet - Craig will be checking on it today. I have not received my invite either. We will keep you all posted - but again - send the emails so that we can verify that I had the correct ones in my files.

Oh - and a heads up for a post- always remember to go to the bottom of the post page and hit the button for "publish post" and then once that is done I always repost the entire blog and then view it all to verify its really there. Trust me - I've learned by mistake (smiley face)
Love,
GAil

A new week

Well its been a very long week as you can tell by all the posts. We made it through everything last week and without the baby coming early! Which was good. I have to say it had to be the most difficult week of my life - but I wanted to thank (and I know this comes from the all 4 of us) all the family and friends for EVERYTHING that you did! IT means so much to us all. Especially the family and even friends that drove from all over to be there with us in our time of grief. It is just amazing to know how great our everyone is. And I'm glad everyone is also making it home safely as well!

I know dad and I were talking today - and we felt bad we may not have talked to everyone that came to the visitations and funeral - please accept our apologizes. We were busy trying to talk to everyone and with me- I had everyone trying to keep me seated. Which it did help! Probably one reason the baby still isn't here yet (yes - that is good).

The funeral and everything were beautiful - Craig, Marcus and Kathy's speaches were so amazing they captured mom perfectly. I know we can all add stories and comments on the wonderful person she was - it reminds me I want to be more like her every day. And I am so thankful she was my mom and I have her as my example to raise my child in this world! She was amazing and always will be - we need to remember she's still with us and will be living through this baby in the near future again.

Thank you all for everything- the love and kindness were amazing by just everyone around. I know dad is still surprised by everything people have and are still doing. And if you want to help - just keep an eye on him for me! (yes dad - I know you will read this too - I'll have my spys out in Howell watching out for you - just because I love you so much! I'm not planning on doing this again for a minimum of 20 years).

For many people - Craig and I will keep this website updated for a while longer on baby updates. I know his earlier post noted the next appointment is this Wednesday morning - we'll go from there on the progress of baby B. I know I've been having more practice contractions over the last few days- but know its not the "real" thing just yet.
Thanks again for everyone - we'll never be able to put into words what it means to the family.

Then Came Sunday

We've gotten word that many people have made it home safe and sound after making the trip up to Michigan. I'm so glad that everyone was able to come and be with the family in this time. We've all lost someone near and dear to us, and it's going to take time to heal.

At Helen's request, I've set up a blogsite for the Britt family at:

http://britt_family.blogspot.com/

I sent out invitations to a number of people to participate, so if you didn't get one, it just means that I didn't have an e-mail address handy, so let me know and I can send you an invite as well. If you set up a basic profile in blogger then you can publish a post just as Gail and I have rather than just adding comments to other posts.

There's no additional news on the baby today. The baby is moving, and our next appointment is early Wednesday morning.

Press & Argus Obituary ~ June 23, 2004

Loretta Jane Wilcox

Loretta Jane Wilcox
Age 58, of Howell, died Tuesday, June 22, 2004 at St. Joseph Mercy Hospital, Ann Arbor. She was born May 11, 1946 in Powe, Missouri, the daughter of Clarence and Mary (Grindstaff) Britt. She was employed as a cashier for Sefa's Market for 10 years then became a customer service representative for Citizen's Insurance for 12 years. She is survived by husband, Douglas L. Wilcox, whom she married August 19, 1967 in Pontiac; children, Gail (Craig) Backus of Redford & Marcus Wilcox of Howell; dear sister to Helen Wright; Mary Adams both of Missouri; Norman Britt of OK; Laura Franklin; Shirley McCabe both of TX and Johnie Britt of MI and mother-in-law, Gurneith Wilcox of Howell. She was preceded in death by her brother, Leonard Britt and sister, Alma Walles. Funeral services will be held Friday, June 25, 2:00 P.M. at the First Baptist Church, 210 Church Street, Howell with Dr. Gary Bruland officiating. Interment will follow at Lakeview Cemetery. Visitation will be Thursday from 1-4 & 6-8 P.M. at MacDonald's Funeral Home, Howell (517-546-2800). Memorial Contributions suggested to Leukemia & Lymphoma Society or First Baptist Church.

Baby Update

Well we have some good news this week- baby news. The baby is definatley on its way - it could be here anytime basically - and the doctor did say it is possible to go full term (another 4 weeks). So that is good - but a big possibilty the baby still can come early.

I have started to dilate already - 1 cm - 10 cm is needed. So cRaig and I have the lecture on what to look for and not to stray too far from home basically - just stay in the metro area.

We also had an ultrasound which dad was able to be at with us - due to everything this week, they could squeeze us in this afternoon. So that was so nice for me to have dad there with me! I am still hoping he'll be with Craig and I when the baby is born- still need my "birth partners"! I think we can con him into that as well.

Baby looks healthy - big - about 6 pounds so far (just a guess). But I'm sure its a good guess.

Craig and I will probably keep this website going to now share the happy news for the next month or so. Please feel free to check in - mom was so excited for this baby and we KNOW that the baby and her family were always topic #1 over the last few weeks. She'd want everyone to be happy for this occasion and remember all the good times- her family and friends were the most important thing in her life - everyone came first in her book.

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society

I did some research about the Leukemia Society. Please consider making a donation to them in lieu of flowers. The mailing address is:

The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society
Office of Donor Services
1311 Mamaroneck Ave.
White Plains, NY 10605

Their website is:

www.leukemia.org


On-line donations can be made at:

Donate Online Now

Funeral Arrangements

Loretta lost her battle today. On Sunday, we just thought it was a bad day, but that it would pass. I thought all along that she would get better, but everything just went wrong, and she passed away this morning at 9:00 AM.

Visitation will be at MacDonald Funeral Home on Thursday. Visiting hours will begin on Thursday at Noon for family and then opens up to everyone at 1 PM until 4 PM. We'll continue in the evening from 6 PM until 8 PM.

The funeral itself will be held on Friday. Visitation will begin at 1:00 PM at the First Baptist Church in Howell and the funeral will be held at 2:00 PM. The service will last approximately 45 minutes, and then will be followed by the internment at Lakeview Cemetery in Howell. We'll return to the church for an early supper at 3:30.

We really do appreciate all of the thoughts and prayers, and just continue to think of Loretta and the family.

First Baptist Church
210 Church St
Howell, MI
517.546.2830

North of the Court House in Howell


MacDonald Funeral Home
215 N Michigan Ave
Howell, MI 48843
517.546.2800


Florist

Country Lane Flower
729 S Michigan Ave
Howell, MI

517.546.1111


Donations can be made to the Leukemia Society of America or to the First Baptist Church in Howell.


Doug's Address is:

Doug Wilcox
1274 S Alstott Dr
Howell, MI 48843

Miracle Needed

Ok - mom's doing pretty darn bad - I probably won't post much this week.

She's in ICU, in a coma, the THINK she has perminant brain damage from a possible blood clot OR that the leukemai has spread to her brain and spinal fluid. She's too week and her blood counts are too low to do the tests. Oh - but ironically- her white blood cells are way up and over the level to come home - nice huh?

Anyhow - the siblings are all on their way up and some will be in tonight and staying at the hospital with dad and Marcus. I needed to rest - I'm exhausted - tried to sleep at the hotel at the hospital this afternoon - and just couldn't. Not like I"ll get much sleep tonight - but in my own bed.

Please pray for some miracle that we will all get through - it does not look good at all. Please know we will inform people of everything later this week. Right now - pray for Dad, Marcus, Craig, Baby B and I. We need the strength to get through all of this - especially dad.
Love,
Gail and family

Emergency Prayers needed

Ok - mom had a horrible day yesterday - long story - must tell later.

Anyhow - she fell alseep yesterday afternoon and the doctors can not get her to wake up at this point. Please pray for her to wake up and feel better. Pray for my father, Marcus, Craig and I and all the relatives that we can make it through another day too.

She has been moved from her room and is now in the ICU - we can not accept phone calls today - please understand - mom takes number one priority at this moment!

Mom's Surprise

Marcus, dad, Craig and I all met for lunch today to celebrate Marcus' birthday and father's day. Then we all headed over to visit with mom. She was pretty tired, they were giving her more platelets and blood - so they had her doped up on Tylenol and Benedryl. But she was coming around when we were there. She even was all dressed up and got out of the room. She had told the nurses her family was all coming and they made her get all done up. I guess they decided that her chemo is over and its time to dress in something other than hospital gowns! So that was really nice of them.

It was a nice visit - but mom is still very weak and tired. Her counts did all go up today! Her white counts went up 400 points! So that was good news too. We are just trying to build up the strength and get her butt home.

The nurses there are just great and all know we are expecting a baby/grandbaby soon- plus its a little hard to hide my belly or waddle anymore. I'm ALL out front. So I asked if mom could hear the heart beat with a stethescope. So the nurse went to get it - and instead ran up to the maternity ward and took a some doppler equipment that allows you to hear the heart beat so much easier! After a while we finally found it! It took 3 nurses - and we figured out the baby is facing downward and is sideways today. Hopefully it will turn or else that is grounds for a c-section. Anyhow - we heard the heart beat! It was so exciting to share that with the family. A little embarassing, because some other people walked in and got a nice belly shot with all these nurses around me with some monitor - I was pretty well blocked - but a little odd to see I'm sure. I think some people were also sitting in the room could hear it as well - they all just smiled! It was nice to see a big smile on mom and dad's faces. We aer going to the ultrasound on Wednesday - mostly to see how big this little one is - we are hoping they will not recommend inducing labor early - Craig and I are just not ready! And we feel that if baby and I are fine - we'd rather wait a few more weeks to let the baby develope as much as possible. I'm planning on asking for a good picture just for mom to have! The nurses say that is one of the things keeping her going - the baby and her family!

WE finaly were able to give her all the posts today - you can't imagine how much those mean to her. Also all the gifts people are sending, dropping off and even making! To the Bunko Group - that quilt was beautiful and you had us all in tears with that poem. And Sal and Katie - not sure if Marcus ever shared this website - but she loved the frog too! I know many others have sent gifts, cards, anything - trust me she loves it all and I can't remember them all off the top of my head.

I'm hoping to spend more time with mom tomorrow - I think I was in withdraws not seeing her all week - but my sore throat is totally gone.

Friday afternoon update

HI all - spoke to mom only for a brief time today - she's very tired and needs her rest - doctors orders for the day. rest today and build strength back up tomorrow. She's taking it to the letter!

the blood counts really are not moving much - white cells did go down yesterday (dad told me that last night). Its very frustrating - but we just hope it means the chemo is working and doing its thing.

I haven't been able to confirm all this with dad yet - realized I have made too many calls on my cell phone - so trying to behave till next month and extra minutes kick in. Anyhow - mom said the doctor plans on taking a bone marrow sample next week - even though she's got a lot of sores right now. He said it doesn't matter. We really won't know what's going on and how things have worked until he gets those results back. Not sure how long that will take - I know from before it took about 48 hours to evaluate the bone marrow to finally determine ALL. But it took about a week to get the final results - but they thought it was something else first. So we'll see. Please keep us all in your prayers - especially mom for strength and patiences to get through this trial in her life. We are all staying very positive and need all the positive re-enforcemtns we can get right now. I know I've never been good with surprises and the "not knowing" so this is very hard on me. I know its hard on all of us - we are not ready to give up this fight yet - and gosh darn it - we will do what ever it takes to do this.

If mom needs a bone marrow or stem cell transplant - please think very hard if you would ever consider being a donor. We know there is a good chance that a relative will be a match - but just incase - think about it first. If needed, we'll go out and ask people to get tested - even if you can't help mom - just think you can help someone else. I've been on the databank for a few years now and have never been contacted.

Baby Update

Good news - baby is still BIG! I guess my belly measures pretty big right now - but that is ok. The heart rate and my blood pressure is still good. They now want me to come in once a week for a check up - probably going to see how things are progressing more closely. The good/bad news - the ultrasound is scheduled for next week - June 23rd! That is good news - bad (well not really bad) - not sure if mom will be out to come see the ultrasound. If not - we hope dad can come as well- he needs a little happy boost as well. He just doesnt' want to know the sex - we'll see. Its up to the baby if its ready to let me know.

Getting excited! Time is getting close - only a few more weeks! 5 weeks and counting!

Do we have to bring our own?

MId week!

Well I just got off the phone with mom - she sounds pretty darn good! The bag-o-food seems to be doing the trick to get her some strength back. Her counts have been going up all week as well - not sky rocketing up - but continuing the climb in the right directions! So that is good. she should finish the 12 day chemo this Friday and then I think we wait till her counts go up and she can come home! The plan is (as of early this week) that she'll have a few weeks off to rest and build strength back up before the 5 day treatment - so that will be nice. If we can get her home for a few weeks - she should be able to go see the ultrasound at the end of June! So I'm excited. I still have to get permission from the doctor tomorrow - but I don't see why her and dad can't come in for a little glance at mom's little peanut.

She's loving everyone's phone calls, cards, etc. It means so much to her - she just is so amazed people care so much is all she says. We keep telling her its because of her - she's too loveable and loves everyone else. Some day it may sink in.

Other than that - life is good - baby update will come tomorrow! I can't see mom right now due to a sore throat - but will get it checked out by the doctor tomorrow. HOpefully its just allergies and not a virus I heard was going around.

We also ordered mom's wig this week! will be interested to see how it looks on her - we decided she'll be blonde! She's very positive about the hair - and so glad my aunt Chris was able to give her some hats/turbins. She's been using them a lot.

Will update with baby news tomorrow and any new info on mom. So far this week - its all been pretty normal.