Monday, June 20, 2011

confirmation from AAI - leads to this emotional post

Update from AAI - sounds like good news and confirmed MOWA letters - MOWA = MOWYCA  (new name)

Positive thinking and positive thoughts - just have to hang on to any little tidbit today - its an emotional day for me - 7 years ago on Monday - my mom was pronounced basically brain dead and we had to decide to take her off the machines or not.  we waited for her sisters to come say good bye -but ultimately we did the other stuff the next day - Tuesday.  granted the "dates' aren't the same - but the day's are.  I can vividly remember those moments - you can go back and read it all - we started this blog originally to keep family and friends informed of her fight with Leukemia!  - she ultimately lost that battle - as one doctor told us - her genetics were just too strong - and they wouldn't let the chemo in to fight and help cure her.  still it sucks!  I remember starting to have contractions that day and as gross as it is - lost my plug that week - Nate luckily held out for 17 days - he was still about 2 weeks early  - but at least not a month early!   I have to remind myself that mom held him first - in heaven before he was born.  she hand picked him just for us - she realized we needed a beautiful little boy - Nate was best for me and my "boys" as I called them for many years - Craig, nate, dad and Marcus (and even Ron - Craig's dad) - it was me and my boys!  that my little Jane wasn't what was needed -

She's up above watching out - but man - I miss her today and want to talk to her - I want to ask for her advice.  I NEED her support - support on this adoption that NO ONE else is really able to give.  Their understanding, their love NO MATTER WHAT - her trust that we know we are making the best choice for OUR family - Only a mom can sometimes give all that - I have my friends - and for 2 of you - sorry for the emails a few minutes ago - but I just am having a rough one -

so anyhow - tears wiped away - there is good news from AAI  - I'm very thankful they are the agency we picked - they are very helpful in keeping us updated - they've confirmed the additional letter that are being processed.  I must focus on that today - and just taking a nap!  Focus on what we have right now - a beautiful little boy that's about to turn 7 in about 18 days I guess officially by date!  Plan that party - and love my awesome husband and await good news that I just know is coming in the next few weeks - and await that phone call from Sally and her team and the ultimate email - hopefully that comes in the next few months!  but good news is coming - a little birdy told me - so I can't say anything yet - but I KNOW we'll have some good news- and then a referral hopefully soon after!>

sorry for the extra emotions - feel free to read the history here - you will find out about 3 beautiful parents that we lost and my grandma too -
Gail

AAI Email -
Dear Families~

We are happy to report we received word that MOWYCA (Ministry of Woman's Youth and Children's Affairs) decided to increase the number of new cases they will approve to ten per day. (as opposed to the five that they were doing) They also stated that they plan to increase this number to 15 per day, over the next few months. It is our understanding that this is in addition to the backlog cases they continue to work on. 

Other pieces of information that we have been told: 

-The courts are opposed to a dramatic decrease in cases approved and recently demanded that MOWYCA review more than five cases per day. 

-The courts are scheduling approximately 20 hearings per day.

-MOWYCA plans to approve 4 cases per agency, per month. This would be okay for some of the smaller agencies but would result in a dramatic decrease for some of the larger agencies. (AAI is considered average to small.) There has NOT been an official announcement about this. 

We have been very busy getting families ready for travel. There are eight families scheduled for court between July 5 & July 21 and we are waiting to hear court dates of three additional families right now. We also have one family scheduled for their embassy appointment next week. 

We are excited about this move in the right direction and hope to hear more positive news soon. 

We will keep you posted on any new information we learn,

~Sally, Mary, & Laura

4 comments:

Unknown said...

Hang in there Gail. You do have the most wonderful little boy in the world and I think you are doing an amazing thing by adopting. I know how much you miss your mom. Just remember there is a whole fleet of angels made by our family members watching out for that special little one to come into all our lives who will have the last name Backus.

Gail Backus said...

Jen- thanks - you are right - ALL our angels are out there taking care of our family and kids - current and future! so thank god we have that.

and - we'll make it through - just another test today.
Love you - hugs to Katie and TJ and You too

Anonymous said...

Hi Gail,
I hear ya. I'm feeling the loss of your mom too. I see so much of your mother IN YOU! She would want you happy. So keep thinking positive, and be happy, and enjoy your life. That's what she would want from you now. Someday we will all be re-united and we will have eternity to share together again with our wonderful Lord and our wonderful friends and family.
May God Bless You as you and "your boys" wait for your new family member. Think Daisies- she loved them!
love, KW

jbruner said...

Gail,
I'm sorry you are having a rough week. I know the time of year always seems to bring the memories back, some years more than others. It has been 23 years for me and this year it was to the exact day of the week. I was having a hard time this year. I just know though that your Mom and my Dad are watching over us, and over your new little one to be. Sending hugs and prayers.